Living in Harmony with Fear
FEAR - Synonym definitions – terror, fright, fearfulness, horror, alarm, panic, agitation, trepidation, dread, consternation, dismay, distress, anxiety, worry, angst, uneasiness, apprehension, apprehensive, nervousness, nerves, perturbation, foreboding. Origin - Old English fǣr ‘calamity, danger,’ fǣran ‘frighten,’ also ‘revere.’ (WIKIPEDIA)
I have yet to come across someone unaffected by fear, be it of something or someone even the unknown. For some when we find ourselves blessed by age and wisdom, we learn to shed off or manage this emotion. But by this time, we have already gone through most of our lives encouraging this emotion. We grow up having it instilled in us as a result of our external experiences and exposure. Words like “can’t and don’t” become a daily part of our transition and eventually our existence. “Don’t touch this”, “you cannot do that” “don’t go there”. As a result, we gradually build this emotion into our consciousness.
What I know now and have become aware is that FEAR is merely “limiting belief”. Whilst it is okay to accept, acknowledge and be aware of “fear”, we can also manage it. FEAR can be helpful to us as it can protect us from harm’s way. On the other hand, FEAR can be a barrier and obstacle to stop us from achieving success, and happiness. It can be a hinderance from trust again or forgiving.
How can we come together to understand and develop the necessary skills to overcome fear whilst still living in harmony alongside it?
Too many of us use FEAR as an excuse for not taking action on the things we really want. Too many of us hide behind FEAR and use violence, withdrawal, aggression, anger as a front to cover up said FEAR. Too many of us use FEAR as an excuse to blame each other or to judge. We have therefore abused the relevance and usefulness of FEAR against ourselves and against those we love and are dear to us. We have allowed FEAR to grow inside of us to the point that we do not know how to go about overcoming it. But it is possible.
I love Steve Harvey’s analogy of “jumping over the cliff” in order for the parachute to open up. He argues that for most of us, we will find it difficult to soar if we do not overcome our FEARS and jump over the cliff so that we can actually enjoy the benefits of the abundance out there waiting for us. Let us come together and help each other overcome FEAR so that we can all aspire to achieve our dreams and desires.
“Please bear with me as more pondering and reflections download from within”